Doc Love: Can A Man Be Too Good-Looking To Get A Girl?
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This week, Doc Love, author of "The System,"coaches a reader who says he's so good-looking that he intimidates girls."They come on way too assertively to compensate for who they assume I am, or else they will be so coy that it makes things awkward."
I have an issue that you may or may not have encountered before but that I'm sure is rare.
I’m a 25-year-old male, 6’2”, tan, hazel eyes, with good hair. I’m what women awkwardly refer to as a beautiful or gorgeous man. (Note: None of this was said to toot my own horn, but rather to paint a picture for context.) I am well-spoken and have plenty of friends, male and female alike. I love to network and socialise and have a natural knack for people.
Women I'm interested in, on the other hand, seem to be a different story. My issue is that they always assume I am a bad guy or a player. I constantly hear that I must have a line of babes waiting to get a shot at me, but, sadly, it just isn’t true. Due to this erroneous assumption, I can never seem to get a fair shot at dating a decent woman. They always project their insecurities on me as if we were in primary school all over again. They come on way too assertively to compensate for who they assume I am, or else they will be so coy that it makes things awkward. The more laid-back and calm I am, the more it intimidates them. I can never seem to find a confident woman who will just walk up to me and say, “Hi, how are you?” or just simply know how to handle starting a conversation with me.
I’d like to think I have the answer to this dilemma, but it is very obvious that I do not. What is a humble, tall, dark and handsome man (I’m being sarcastic here) to do when all the available women think that there’s already some gorgeous woman getting played by me. I have to add -- and I’m being completely honest here -- that I am what you could call shallow. I am attracted to very beautiful women who are fit, exotic-looking and have light eyes and good skin. Maybe this is a contributing factor as to why I am having such a hard time finding “the one.”
Orlin - who has a problem other guys would kill for
Hey, you sound like the perfect male! You’ve got looks, you’ve got height, you’ve got hair, and you’re a social butterfly. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “So where’s the problem, paisan?”
When you complain about being seen as a bad guy or a player, I have to ask you this, my friend: What kind of woman are you dealing with? Certain women might see you as a male model or an aspiring actor, but they have no right to think of you as anything, including a bad guy or a player or a wallflower. Those women are stupid. Next Page >>