The 6 Reasons Why Men Cheat
When Tiger Woods was forced into admitting his marital ‘transgressions’ in a half-hearted apology on his website, he joined a long and illustrious band of high profile fellas who’ve been caught playing away.
Woods joined Charlie Chaplin, Bill Clinton, JFK, Elvis Presley, Einstein (he had 10 mistresses no less) Napoleon and er…John Major, to name but a few high profile historical male icons who’ve struggled to commit to one woman. And that’s before we even begin to look at all of the ‘alleged’ cases of marital indiscretions — hello Messrs Ramsay and Beckham.
But even for the everyday man or woman, adultery has been around forever, and has always given us something to talk about. Most reality TV shows these days centre on it, as do gossip mags and radio talk shows. But we are far from cracking the big mystery: Why do some men cheat in relationships?
All men know, at some level, that cheating is wrong — otherwise why would they be hiding it? From the earliest age, we are taught the virtues of monogamy. “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife,” bellows our Judeo-Christian consciousness. Yet we still do it.
blame it on the genes
In troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of divorce. It’s a quick fix for the sake of the couple’s or the family’s integrity. Some of us have even gone so far as to enact the long-distance code: If you cheat in another postcode, it doesn’t count.
And with evolutionary psychologists telling us that we are wired to lay our seeds in as many women as possible to ensure our genetic survival, adultery is slowly becoming a defensible misdeed, which may explain why women are catching up to men in the game of infidelity.
Because of our insatiable appetite for sex, we men can sometimes only be as faithful as our options. Here are the 10 main reasons why some men will opt to shed their devotion and cheat on their partners.
Number 10
Your lady doesn’t give it up
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfilment. With the need for more sex, some men will start “working late” more often.
Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn’t want to try new things in bed, or won’t perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don’t want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their “good girl” image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This, “That’s the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!”
Number 9
She cheated on you
So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they’ve had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that’s efficiency.
Number 8
It’s challenging and exciting
If you consider the women you sleep with “sexual trophies,” chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply can’t leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavours for one day after years of sticking to just one.
Number 7
You can get away with it
“What the eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,” goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around — or, in the case of Tiger Woods, voicemails. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.
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