Doc Love: Learn To Read Between The Lines

Darclight Films

“You haven’t even been out with this girl yet and you’re blatantly showing your Interest Level, which is a no-no. Like my cousin General Love says, “You have a lot to learn, soldier.”“

This week, Doc Love, author of The System, helps a man understand a woman’s signals

Hey Doc,

I’ve gotten my hair cut by Rain twice now at a local style shop. The first time we talked and made normal conversation. I noticed a picture of her daughter on her counter so we chatted about that, and I mentioned that I had a daughter too. So it was going nicely. I didn’t ask for her number because she was working and it was the first time we really talked.

Six weeks later it was time for another haircut. Rain remembered our first conversation and now we got a little more in depth on family issues and so on. She said that she and a couple of her girlfriends had resolved that there would be no guys in their lives for a while since they were so busy. When I walked out she wished me a good time at a family party I told her about. I said it was going to be fun and that I wished she could be there. She said “But it’s not my family,” though she was being cute about it.

Being the salesman, I had to close the deal. I waited two hours, called Rain at the salon and said “Hey, I didn’t want to bother you at work, but I was wondering if I could give you a call sometime and maybe we could get together.” She said “Yes, but remember that I don’t want anything. If you want to go out that’s fine, but I’m going to wait before I even think about dating.” I said fine and she gave me her number anyway.

I called Rain and left her a message. She phoned back several hours later but only let the phone ring twice before hanging up. She didn’t give me a chance to answer it, which I don’t get. It’s like she wanted me to know that she called because her name showed up on caller ID, but she either didn’t want to talk or she wanted me to call her back. I did, but then she didn’t answer or return the call.

Doc, I want to know what I should do. I’m trying to think of some way of making her say to herself, “I like this guy and want to take it a step further.” Any suggestions?

Jean-Claude – who doesn’t want to have to change hair stylists

Doc Love’s Response

Hi Jean-Claude,

When Rain told you that she didn’t want any men in her life for a while, it was the biggest lie in the world. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love says, “If Bradley Cooper sat in her chair and wanted to take her out, she’d be flying out the door with him.” But her words were hint number one.

It was a mistake to tell Rain that you wished she could be present at your family party. To you Psych majors, you don’t ask a girl something like that when you hardly know her. Pal, you were coming on HEAVY with Rain, which you’re not supposed to do. What’s wrong with you, Jean-Claude? You haven’t even been out with this girl yet and you’re blatantly showing your Interest Level, which is a no-no. Like my cousin General Love says, “You have a lot to learn, soldier.” Next Page >>