5 Myths About Older Men Dating Younger Women
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“Trust me, as you get older, sex drops further and further down your list of relationship priorities.“
I moved in with the love of my life a couple of months ago. She’s smart, sexy, has a great sense of humour and happens to be much younger than I am. Things are going great — thanks for asking — though it’s hard to ignore the large number of people, friends and strangers alike, who feel obliged to comment on our relationship. Normally, that isn’t the sort of thing that would bother me, but it’s starting to feel like everyone is reading from the same book, which makes me wonder if maybe there isn’t another side to the story.
1. She’s in it for the money.
People get together for all sorts of reasons. Money can be a factor in any relationship, but it seems a little unfair, not to mention superficial, to judge people’s motivations on the basis of simple arithmetic. As my girlfriend likes to say: “If I was looking for a sugar daddy, I’d have gone for someone a lot richer and better-looking than you.” (Did I mention her great sense of humour?)
If you think about it, women in their 20s are probably less likely than older women to care about the financial status of their partners. Most of them are in their romantic, idealistic phase. They’re not worrying about things like long-term security and whether you’ll be a good provider for the children you might have someday — that comes later. Women in their 20s have no problem going for pizza and taking the train home. Give ‘em a decade or so, and if they’re still single, they’ll want see your stock portfolio before they agree to a second date.
2. He’s only in it for the sex.
Seriously? As compared to what, all those guys in their 20s who are in clubs at 3 a.m. looking for a deep, meaningful connection? Trust me, as you get older, sex drops further and further down your list of relationship priorities. Things like friendship, intimacy and good conversation become a lot more important, which is probably a big part of the attraction for girls who are fed up with guys talking to their breasts. Next Page >>